It was one of those mornings when I woke up with two small boys in my bed and no husband. The boys were trying to be very quiet and sneak away, I suspected to wake Maddie up. So I asked them where they were going, which made them jump, and Theo replied ‘We’re going to check no bad guys have sneaked in. We’re very brave.’ With that kind of confidence and heroism, what could I say?!
I’m especially grateful that click and collect shops are now easy to book, and so off I went to Tesco for my 9-11 slot, leaving half the children starting work and the other half in pjs watching Moana. 50% seems a reasonable success rate to me. There are however some downsides with click and collect these days. Firstly, I was done and dusted in 20 minutes. No all morning jaunt out of the house for me! Secondly, we’re limited to 80 items. This is actually not much when there’s 8 of you. Well, my maths tells me it’s 10 items per person. So there were difficult decisions to make over whether I had 3 tins of beans for 75p, or a second bottle of wine? It was no joke, especially with two birthdays to plan for next week.
Unfortunately I made an online shopping error with the pasta sauce, as you can see above. Clearly I didn’t check the jar size. I’m not sure the child size jar will do our family for a meal! Still, we hit the jackpot with rinse aid, which had been avoiding us for about a month now at every shop I’ve done. Finally, squeaky clean dishes once more.
The Frozen worksheets went down well…as did supplying doughnuts alongside the work. They were so happy with their work success that we had to FaceTime Grandma and the Aunties to show them. And Micah then insisted on getting out the box of puzzles that he makes Grandma do with him every time she visits, to try and do over FaceTime. Theo’s informed Auntie Mim that when lockdown is over he’s coming for a 10 night sleepover. I’m ok with that plan. I might pack a bag ready, you know, just to be prepared. Once Boris gives the nod, we’ll be on our way.
Liam was busy working on Megan’s DT project today. For the entire afternoon. Which he definitely seemed more committed to than she did. So I sat downstairs with the small ones, who played hard and then watched Monster’s University. Which gave me a chance to sit, crochet, and watch some good soul lifting videos. Except for the hour that my phone was hi-jacked by Toby on a call with his friends, which turned into virtual hide and seek. How that works I can’t even fathom!
This time last year I was generously gifted a ticket to a women’s conference in London, which my mum came with me too, and it was a special time of tears, refreshment, fun, and rest. We booked for this year when we were still sitting in the auditorium, and that’s where I would have been headed today. For 3 days in a hotel, with breakfast cooked for me, with my mum and sisters, listening to powerful talks and meaningful music.
So there’s elements of obvious disappointment that those plans have also been cancelled. Liam and I find it ironic that at the beginning of this year we carefully planned lots of breaks and holiday time throughout 2020. And one by one, we’ve crossed them off.
But often what I think I need isn’t what God knows I need. He knew last year that the conference would be cancelled this year. For the first time in the conference’s history, last year they decided they would record the first one in February 2020, and to stream it, meaning that the entire 3 days is accessible online throughout these days of lockdown.
I thought I needed a break from my family and to find God in London. He knew that this year we’d need to be having a break from normal life not away from each other, but together. He knew that I could find Him in new ways every day in the middle of my kitchen and through the voices of my children and on a Sunday morning sitting on the lounge rug in front of YouTube worship songs. In little conversations with the kids and in time to watch the birds in the garden.
Our pastor shared a talk today and quoted one of my Grandma’s favourite hymns, ‘O Love that Wilt Not Let Me Go’, with these lines that I’ve loved since I was young, and had no idea what they meant:
‘O Joy, that seekest me through pain,
I cannot close my heart to Thee;
I trace the rainbow through the rain,
And feel the promise is not vain
That morn shall tearless be.’
There are days lockdown is hard and tearful, when it’s loud and chaotic, where it’s scary and lonely, and there are heavy hearted times where I feel other people’s pain and plead with God for them. But there are also so many rainbows to be traced through the rain of isolation too. Moments like our family walk after dinner, where Liam and I couldn’t walk together because of teenage girls pushing in and fighting to hold our hands, of little brothers standing at the bottom of a banking offering to catch their older sisters, of laughter when Micah buried a leaf and then tried his hardest to find it again on a muddy beach. Of giggles as Megan and I tried to whistle the very high notes from Phantom of the Opera. (It’s not possible, in case you’re trying now). Of little ones who snuggle in closer than before and feel safer than they did before. Of surprise parcels through the post because we’re remembering other ways of showing we care. Of learning to work harder at connecting with people and fighting zoom weirdness and dodgy WiFi and drinking coffee over FaceTime and looking horrendous on the camera, because it’s so important to ‘hang out’ with people and make time for community.
And I’ve had rainbows in messages from you kind people who keep reading our crazy and boring days and sending lovely encouraging messages, and it all feels less like isolation and more like we’re building something special together. And that when we go back out into the world we’ll value people more because we won’t take them for granted like maybe we did at times before.
‘O Love, that wilt not let me go,
I rest my weary soul in Thee;
I give Thee back the life I owe,
That in Thine ocean depths its flow
May richer, fuller be.
O Light, that followest all my way,
I yield my flickering torch to Thee;
My heart restores its borrowed ray,
That in Thy sunshine’s blaze its day
May brighter, fairer be.
O Joy, that seekest me through pain,
I cannot close my heart to Thee;
I trace the rainbow through the rain,
And feel the promise is not vain
That morn shall tearless be.
O Cross, that liftest up my head,
I dare not ask to fly from Thee;
I lay in dust life’s glory dead,
And from the ground there blossoms red
Life that shall endless be. (George Matheson)
(‘Hope’ wooden rainbow purchased from Pippa Fitzgerald on Etsy and arrived today).
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